How to Make Friends – How Workplace Friendships Can Boost Your Career and Well-Being
By Gabriela Mueller Mendoza
Friendship has been a cornerstone of my professional journey—from my early career as an employee to 20+ years as a business owner and leader. Many of my closest colleagues are also dear friends, with relationships spanning 30 years. These friendships have opened doors, provided support during tough times, and made work more meaningful.
Yet, friendships at work are facing a crisis, especially among younger professionals. The rise of remote and hybrid work has made it harder to form deep, lasting connections, even though workplace friendships boost engagement, job satisfaction, and career growth.
It’s time to prioritize friendships—at work and beyond. Meaningful relationships don’t just make our careers better; they help us thrive in life.
Why Workplace Friendships Matter
While we chase career success, many overlook the life-changing power of friendships. Research shows friendships are the biggest factor in long-term happiness and even longevity.
Strong workplace friendships:
- Boost job satisfaction—83% of employees with work friends feel happier and more engaged.
- Improve mental health—Friendships at work reduce stress and feelings of isolation.
- Create career opportunities—41% of employees say their friends helped them advance.
Friendships aren’t just a bonus—they’re essential.
Why Making Friends Is Harder Today
Despite their importance, workplace friendships are declining. The shift to remote work, over-reliance on digital communication, and financial constraints have made socializing harder. Many professionals—especially women and younger employees—report feeling lonely at work.
People also struggle with:
- Lack of friendship role models—Romantic relationships get all the attention, but deep friendships? Not so much.
- The awkwardness of making friends as an adult—No built-in social structures like school to foster new connections.
- Fear of vulnerability—Genuine friendships require trust, openness, and effort.
Yet, strong friendships aren’t impossible—they just need to be intentional.
How to Build and Maintain Friendships at Work
Be Proactive, Not Passive
Friendships don’t just happen—you must make the effort. Check in on colleagues, celebrate their wins, and show up when it matters. It’s about being there, even when life gets busy.
Prioritize In-Person Connection
No amount of texting replaces face-to-face time. Schedule coffee chats, lunch breaks, or video calls if remote. Friendship is built on presence, not just communication.
Make Friendship a Habit
We schedule work meetings—why not friendships? Set reminders to check in, organize group activities, and reconnect with old friends. Deep friendships don’t happen by accident; they happen when you invest in them.
Have Honest Conversations
Many friendships fade because people avoid difficult conversations. Instead of assuming or ghosting, talk about issues directly. Honest conversations strengthen trust; silence weakens it.
Expand Your Social Circle
To make new friends, put yourself in the right spaces. Join interest groups, volunteer, attend events, or network professionally. Friendships grow faster when you share experiences, not just small talk.
Final Thought: Invest in Friendship, Invest in Your Future
At the end of your life, you won’t remember pay checks or promotions—you’ll remember the people who stood by you.
Friendships aren’t just a luxury; they’re the foundation of happiness, success, and well-being.
So, ask yourself:
- Who do I need to reconnect with?
- Where am I prioritizing things over friendships?
- How can I be a better friend today?
Because strong friendships don’t just happen. They are built. Let’s start building.
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Gabriela Mueller Mendoza www.gabrielamueller.com
Executive Coach | Speaker | Future-Ready Strategist
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