How to Instantly Connect with People: Simple Tricks for Better Conversations
By Gabriela Mueller Mendoza
Do You Ever Feel Awkward in a Room Full of Strangers?
I know I do. Even after years of coaching communication skills and leading high-impact conversations, I still experience those moments of hesitation in places where I don’t know anyone. People assume I’m an extrovert, but in reality, I’m more of an ambivert—a mix of introvert and extrovert.
I’ve spent years studying and developing simple, effective ways to communicate and connect with people—fast. Whether it’s at the start of my courses, during keynote talks, or in networking settings, these strategies save time, sweat, and even a few tears.
If you’ve ever struggled to break the ice, make a lasting impression, or feel confident in a room full of strangers, you’re not alone. Here are my best tips and tricks to help you connect instantly and leave people remembering you for all the right reasons.
Great communicators aren’t the ones who talk the most—they’re the ones who make others feel seen and heard.
Instant Connection Hacks:
- Show genuine curiosity—ask thoughtful follow-ups.
- Use empathetic listening—nod, react, engage.
- Add a light touch of humour—it makes interactions memorable.
When you stop trying to impress and start genuinely engaging, relationships change.
Five Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You
Want to be more likable? Stop doing these five things:
- Interrupting constantly. Let people finish.
- Lack of eye contact. Makes you seem uninterested.
- One-upping others’ stories. It kills connection.
- Being overly defensive. Stay open.
- Speaking in a monotone. Energy matters.
Sometimes, charisma is about what you DON’T do.
The Fundamentals of Confidence
Confidence isn’t luck—it’s a skill.
How to Build Unshakable Confidence:
- Trust yourself. Even when you don’t feel 100% ready.
- Start small. Confidence is built through small wins.
- Own your presence. Take up space, slow down, project certainty.
The secret? Confidence isn’t about knowing everything—it’s about being okay with not knowing.
Ready to Become More Charismatic?
Charisma isn’t about being the loudest in the room. It’s about making people feel drawn to you—naturally and effortlessly.
- Make strong first impressions.
- Take control of conversations.
- Use body language that commands attention.
- Speak with confidence and presence.
Most importantly: Start small. Try ONE of these techniques this week and watch how people respond differently.
What’s one charisma skill you’ll start using today? Drop it in the comments!
Gabriela Mueller Mendoza www.gabrielamueller.com
Executive Coach | Speaker | Future-Ready Strategist
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